Palliative Care Information - VA Illiana Health Care System, Danville, Illinois
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VA Illiana Health Care System, Danville, Illinois

 

Palliative Care Information

“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” 
- Chinese Proverb      

“We only have moments to live.” – Jon Kabat-Zinn

Living with a life-limiting illness:

Receiving a life-limiting or terminal illness diagnosis is a difficult process. When time is limited, it can be a reminder to readjust priorities and can make time feel more valuable.  Facing death may create opportunities and “permission” to spend time doing things that are truly important to you.

Feeling your feelings

It is important to allow yourself to feel your feelings. Many people try to control and conceal painful emotions, or sometimes feel the need to act upbeat, even if that is contrary to what you are feeling inside. This may be especially true for feelings of fear, anger, or sadness.  However, denying feelings can make the process of coping with life-limiting illness more painful.

Spiritual Considerations

Making time to contemplate meaning, purpose, and connectedness in life is a common and important part of negotiating life-limiting illness. Meeting with a spiritual advisor or counselor, reading favorite written passages, and discussing spiritual concerns with loved ones may be helpful.

Making Peace

Most people have some complicated relationships and may have hurt feelings from old disagreements. Working on letting go of grudges and finding forgiveness can provide a sense of peace

Memories

Our fondest memories are often of friends and family members. Reviewing photos of favorite memories and people may be important to you right now. It may be important to create a record of memories for loved ones to use in the future. For example, you might consider making a tape or recording of your voice for loved ones. Tapes can be made for assorted friends and family members, with short or long messages for each recipient. Videos are another way to leave a memory. You may wish to leave messages for your children, grandchildren, spouse, or close friends. Another option is to write personalized letters to loved ones, sharing memories, advice, kind words, or how you feel about them.

Families and caregivers living with a loved one’s life-limiting illness:

When you take care of a dying or very ill loved one, you may experience a range of emotions such as grief, sadness, or fear. These feelings may appear at different times. For example, when you first learn about your loved one’s serious illness, or when you think about adjusting future plans.

Coping strategies for families and caregivers

Make time to feel the feelings. The process of adjusting to a life-limiting illness is full of ups and downs. Try to be patient with yourself. It may be hard to take care of your responsibilities at times, (for example work, parenting). Try not to spread yourself too thin. For example, if your loved one is staying in the palliative care unit, and you would like to visit him/her daily, consider that it may be better to have fewer quality visits rather than travelling so often that you end up feeling stressed and frazzled.

Self care

Take time to do things you enjoy. It is also important to try to keep your normal routines. Your life may feel turned upside down but try to keep daily routines. Try to eat healthily, engage in physical activity, and get regular sleep.

Accept Support

Let family and friends know how they can help. It can be as simple as running errands when you are busy with caregiving duties, walking your dog, bringing you food, or lending a supportive ear. Accept these forms of help whenever you can. Many people find it helpful to attend a support group of people who are going
through the same process.

Links to resources with further information:
For Copy of DD214: http://www.archives.gov/veterans/military-service-records/
Burial and Memorial Benefits for Veterans: http://www.cem.va.gov/

Books that may be useful:

  • Feldman, D.B., & Lasher, S.A. The End-of-Life Handbook: A Compassionate
    Guide to Connecting with and Caring for a Dying Loved One. New Harbinger
    Publications, 2008.
  • **Lynn, J., and Harrold, J. Handbook for mortals: Guidance for people facing
    serious illness. Oxford University Press, 2006. See also http://www.growthhouse.org/mortals/mor0.html

Contact Info

Location

  • VAMC - Palliative Care Information
    1900 E. Main Street
    Danville, IL 61832

Contact Number(s)

  • 217-554-5648
  • 217-554-5641

Hours of Operation

  • M-F 7:30a.m.-4:00p.m.